In my mother's testimony, my mother claims she was a victim of abuse by my father. I've done a lot of research and police reports and I cannot find one place where my father was arrested in New York for hitting my mother. I can't even find a report. I do find where when they did split up she was homeless.
At no point do I think my mother did not love me. I do love my mother. Like I said earlier in my post, I'm not doing this out of hate or spite.
If Jean wants to be honest he will tell you the truth. He used to wake up in the middle of the night and beat me, and blamed it on Vietnam. Towards the end, before we split, my brother came out one time and went looking for him, and when he came back he told me "he will never hurt you again sis".
ReplyDeleteI never called the cops on your dad, so hence no reports.
Ask jean how he was hurting/beating/raping me in Wading River, while pregnant with you at our first home, and my mother was visiting, and he threw my mother, out into the cold snow at night, cause she tried to stop him. After your dad was done having his way with me, he went to work, like nothing happened.
My mom came back in and called for someone to pick us BOTH up, and I left your dad! Ask him about that! I lived with my mother for around 7 months, and each time I felt you kick, I thought how I grew up with out my dad and didnt want you to go through that so I called Jean and asked, if we could make it work..he said yes, picked me up, but when we were halfway home, he said "i have lost all respect for you cause you came back".
You were born, Praise God, but his crazed beatings didn't stop. He was caught flirting with all my girlfriends, ask him about Cathy S. Once On Florida road I ran out of our home and into town and went to cathy's house and on the way ran into your aunt Loretta, who asked what happened as I looked hurt, i told her "ask your brother". I could go on and on, but that was the past.
I is seven hard time believe that he did all that and you never call the police on him and never got him arrested.
DeleteI didn't want him put in jail son..I loved him. He was the first love in my life. I cried as I typed this out...
DeleteBernadette on her last week alive, called your dad, ask him, and I heard her say "it's ok dad, you don't have to admit anything, I want you to know I fogive you anyway." Ask Jean about that call!
ReplyDeleteYour dad was not supposed to leave N.Y. with his "temporary custody" but he did and with his girlfriend. He moved and hid 3 yrs and established jurisdiction in Mn. and served me with custody, support and divorce papers and when I found out where you both were, I got on a Greyhound bus and went to see you both when I found out finally after crying 3 yrs in a row, not knowing where you both were and ran to see you. He got full custody up there, and was supposed to give me visitation,which never happened. You both were supposed to come see me on that Christmas and my dad paid for that ticket too, but last minute I got a call saying you were both sick.... Not long after, Ms Bonita, was the one who called me telling me what your dad did to Jeremy as Jeremy told her when he was in his high chair. You were crying Bonnie and you said, You don't want him to hurt my two children anymore so she called the cops and he was arrested and served time, didnt he Bonnie, and was let out to do some kind of service work and put on meds to control his actions. I didn't make this up, Bonnie/Bonita told me. It wasn't long after that that I recieved a phone call saying "you can have them back we can't afford to take care of all of them" and My dad paid your plane fair home to me in N.Y. The airport called us and told us you had no coats nor luggage and it was in December so we went out and bought you some so you could be warm when you got off the plain. Imagine that, not even a coat on your backs, they sent you home to me... After you were home with us, when your sister spilt her drink the first time, she jumped, and said "don't hit me please" I asked why I would and she said Bonnie does if I spill my drink" Ask her about that!
I have forgiven your dad for what he did to me and you both when I saw him down here. I understand he went through alot in Viet Nam. Bonnie didnt like us to talk, but we did, and we both apologized to each other.
I do not want to go back and forth. It is what it is, and I am glad, you believe you found the truth, but much is missing. You told Diann alot and she was always with you at the house babysitting in Kew Gardens when we went to work, you were never alone there.
I am done John.. I love you nothing will ever change that. As far as me lying, I am speaking as you are, from my heart, what happened. If no one wants to believe me, so be it.
How could Bernadette call he dad? At the time you claimed she called, we lived in South Dakota and she did not have that phone number.
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ReplyDeleteSo now you're saying that my father did not beat you until you are almost dead. that you lied about that. I have my father's entire police report and I have your entire police report. this is funny that he beat you so much but yet there's not one police report out there that he hurt you. but again you go on and try to say my father abused me my,my father did not touch me, Jeremy none of us kids. you and and my mom. and my father. sat down at Thanksgiving dinner and Christmas dinner. and asked each other for forgiveness and it wasn't just for one thing y'all talked for a long time. but seeing you not know how to forgive something and let it be. your Drag it on. I learned a long time ago not to let my past to drag me down,and run my life. Because until you actually truly forgive. You will never be able to go forward.
ReplyDeleteJ. I did not take you children out of NY and I can prove that. I met your father after he moved here. I have read the temporary custody papers from NY several times. They say nothing about having to stay in NY with you children. Unfortunately, we do not have those papers anymore, but I am sure we can get copies quite easily. Also, it took your mother several weeks to come see you once she found out where you were. I kept calling her because she said she was going to be on the next bus and she wouldn't be. She kept saying she had to stay in NY because of her unemployment. She finally came after telling them at the unemployment office that she was coming to Minnesota to look for work.
ReplyDeleteI never did refuse to send you to see your mother. There are so many things in her response that are lies. I really believe Patty never quit her drugs. She talks like someone on Meth. If your father would beat her in her sleep, why did he not beat me the same way? Your father must be pushed to the limit to become violent.
As far as Jeremy is concerned, I told him what Patty said and he is ready to get an attorney and sue her for slander. He addemently states his father never touched him and as I said before, I did tell Patty that Jeremy said "Daddy did" but I found out later that he said, "Danny did." Danny was our neighbor's son. Jeremy was young and his language skills and word pronounciations were not the best. I just never told Patty because I believed at the time that is was all over and done with. Evidently I was wrong. Patty says she forgave your father. If she had, none of this would ever have been brought up. She knows without a doubt that I did not help your father take you children out of NY, she just wants to spread lies and after almost 40 years, I don't know why she has to hold on to them. I know what I did to You and Bernadette and I asked you both to forgive me when I came to get you when you lived on the Island. I admitted everything. This is something I am thankful I did because of what happened to Bernadette in the end. Patty where did you get all that stuff about my husband, yes, he was arrested but it had nothing to do with Jeremy and yes he did 4 months in jail and was released. He did not have to do any community service and he was never put on meds to control his behavior. I never had any problem with your mom and dad talking. That is another one of her realities being different then anyone elses' Why do you resent me so much, Patty? After 40 years you still can't let things go. When we lived in Florida you claimed you loved us and you even had us to your home for Thanksgiving and Christmas. You claimed my husband molested your two children. If he did this, why did you still let them come to visit us in Minnesota? You see Patty, your actions do not jive with your words, Get over it all and get on with life.
Meth head...I never quit drugs... Nice Bonnie..
DeleteThe Lord have mercy on your soul....
John, all this over a link to a blog no one knew existed except Mr. Jordan who lied about Kev, whom I defended with "MY" testimony. No names but ours and Bernies first name. YOU John have blown this out of proportion. You shall reap what you have sewn. Good bye son.
I don't worry about my soul. I have never stated anything except the truth about what happened and you will never except the fact that I did not help Jean take the children out of NY. I didn't meet him until he was already in Minnesota. That is only one of the truths you will not except. I never would have gotten involved with this if you had not started slandering my husband and me.
DeleteAbout taking you children out of NY. If I had done so, your mother could have had me arrested for kidnapping, but she didn't because she knows this is untrue. She couldn't do anything about your dad and we know this is true because when she found out where you were, she never filed a complaint,
DeleteWhen I found out?? It was 3 years later I found out where you were, you had established "jurisdiction" you hid out 3 yrs..(I contacted people, a private eye, my DAD was going to pay for him and was told it was not against the law to "abscond" with your own children back then, and you BOTH knew that) Each year Jean called Joey and said, "it's almost over" Joey told me. THEN 3 yrs later Jean called Joey and asked how to get a hold of me..he didnt tell Jean where I lived he told him where I worked, and I was served THERE at my job, with custody, support and divorce papers! When ****I found out where you were, was when I was served papers*** not a minute sooner and THEN I hopped a Greyhound bus alone the 1st time.
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DeleteI forgive you for your lies Bonnie. You may continue this on your own now as I have nothing more to say to you. Shalom
Deletebut I have all the court papers and police reports , I do not feel like posting them on this. but if I have to I will. worst part about all this mom. You did not tell me in September that you were put your past on a blog for other people to see. you could he just said the truth and my son and my daughter were molested. you did not have to make up lies and say my father did it. in the fact that I'm 43 stinking years old have to relive it. not once did you ever say I'm sorry for letting you get hurt under your care. My stepmom did when I came up there to visit my father when i was 20 years old. and the worst part about it is I had to here about the blog from Larry and not the cable guy. oh and don't say that was no names your name – dad's name , Sissy his name and my son . Like nobody with half a brain could ever figure it out. I so hard for a apology. You better make a quick is we do not know what tomorrow will come.
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DeleteJohn, i never said I lied, what I said was true.
DeleteAbove I said to ask Bonnie, if she did not call me before you both were sent home to me on a plane, no coats, no luggage. Ask her, if she did not tell me what Jean did to jeremy if she didnt call me to tell me he was arrested and imprisoned in Mn for child abuse. She is the one who told me what happened to you both, by jean. How would I have known? I did not make it up. Ask her. (of course she can lie,but she told me, so did she lie to me?)
I sat down to dinner with them, cause I forgave them for what they did and your dad asked me to forgive him for his beating me, while pregnant with you and all the other times... He asked forgiveness so I gave him it.
*****IF Mr Jordan, did not make a video accusing your step dad, Kev of molesting Bernsey, I would never would have had to defended him with the truth on the blog, which is not my blog. Here is the video Jordan made >>>>> https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=f2VYNCo6bcY
Go to 10 mins 22 secs..how about telling him to not say those things bout your dad and sister, not that he will listen nor care?
I am done, defending myself. You were not there, I was and as a naive, young girl, found myself in an abusive marriage and did not know what to do. Nowadays, I would have locked him up in a flash, then I stayed, just as my mom had, when my dad did the same to her.
I am done, and will not be back here. Praying for you and all involved
how easy is it to go on family tree.com and put your name and dad's name in and see where your son and daughter is give me a break.
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ReplyDeleteI just want all of this to end. I explained what happened with our youngest son, I know what happened with J. and Bernie. All has been said, J. has heard your side and our side. He has the court papers of the child support, the custody and background checks on us all. You want to lie about us for some reason go ahead. I forgive you Patty and Kevin for your lies and deceipt. God will judge us all in the end. I never did have anything against you two. I thought we were all good.
ReplyDeleteJ. and Bernie were both hurt in both of our care. I owned the hurt I caused and told them it was not their fault and I asked their forgiveness. It is now your turn to admit the hurt that was caused in your care and ask his forgiveness. We were all charged with protecting both children and we all failed. I am sorry for that. I won't go into the horror stories J told me about living with you. John has forgiven me and I know he has forgiven you even though you have not admitted the pain you caused.
ReplyDeleteJohn, we took care of this a long time ago after Jesus came into our lives. We asked you and sissy to forgive us and then when Stan Johnson visited us we ALL prayed and asked for forgiveness again and he did deliverance on us all, remember? This is all covered by the blood of Jesus. I know you both were hurt, before you got back to us and after and I thank Yahweh for his precious blood which forgives and covers all iniquity from the past.
ReplyDeleteI will still share my testimony as led by God, and when I do, it doesn't mean I hate anyone, cause if you ever read, or listen when I share it, I always say your dad and I have forgiven each other, and I love him in the Lord. It is my Testimony, so thank you for dropping this and moving on as we will too. Shalom my precious son. Talk to you soon, just not here.
You know my father talks about a sister and brother live with you in Rocky point and he was a sex offender.you didn't think that was a bad idea.A testimony to be about yourself that no one else leave my part of your testimonies out you say you apologized to apologize for a lie.My father was never in jail for nothing. everybody told me this blog would do nothing for your soul.you do not care.
Deleteyes when I was 15 years old Stan Johnson was there and I didn't know all sides of the story. drop watch that you been lying to me for so many years you have no compassion you have no nothing you think lying to me all these years is going to end.if you are sorry you would never posted that on the Internet. you sit there and lay the blame on my father went seven men in your care abuse to me. the apology is not an apology when you're lying about what you did. and yet you still think that you did nothing wrong
ReplyDeleteWhat does my father have to forgive you for he didn't do nothing wrong except for marry you this blog will stay for all times and any time you try to pull lying about my father this blog will be there to unfold your lies. do whatever you have to do in life to make other people feel sorry for you you made your bed now lying in it.
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ReplyDeleteI'll just let you know mother the papers will be here have all leave Friday or Monday I did get a copy of the child support papers so they will be here and we will have the final proof I put my money on you lying
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ReplyDeleteclearly you do not know what a testimony.a testimony should be about you what you did what happened to you and how you met God not what happened to your children. that you leave my father out of your testimonies you leave me out of your testimonies you do not have any permission if you ever do it again which I know you well I will take you to court.
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